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For Those Planning to Marry at Resurrection

Very soon after becoming engaged, you should make an appointment to talk with the Rector of Episcopal Church of the Resurrection. The seating capacity for Resurrection is 200. By contacting the church early (preferably before choosing a reception hall), you can find out what is required by this congregation in order to get married here. In addition, the Canons (rules) of the Episcopal Church require at least 30 days’ notice to the clergy of intent to be married. The Canons further require that the minister “shall have instructed both parties as to the meaning, nature and purpose of Holy Matrimony, or have ascertained that they have received such instruction from persons known by him/her to be competent and responsible.” If one or both of you are divorced, the Rector must get permission from the Bishop of Long Island before she/he can agree to perform the marriage. While this is normally granted, it does require a few extra weeks to organize and submit the appropriate information.

In your planning, please remember that you are not just planning for your wedding day, but for every day of the rest of your life. We encourage you, therefore, to see this as a time of growing together and deepening your relationship. The pre-marital counseling sessions will concentrate on your relationship and help you in your planning of the marriage service.

Normally, the Rector meets with the couple a minimum of five times spread out over several months to prepare them for marriage. It is our way of fulfilling the sentence in the wedding service that says:
“Therefore marriage is not to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly, but reverently, deliberately, and in accordance with the purposes for which it was instituted by God.”

About the Marriage Service.

All weddings in the Episcopal Church are normally from the Book of Common Prayer, pages 423-432. There are opportunities to personalize your wedding by the selection of readings from the Bible and by the selection of music (please see our organist’s comments). The Rector will help you with selecting the readings. This service anticipates that the Holy Eucharist will be celebrated at a marriage. Know that all are welcome to receive Communion here. The details of the Service can be discussed and decided upon by the Rector in consultation with the couple to be married. The following is offered to you in your planning.

Rehearsal

A rehearsal is usually held the day prior to the wedding, although it could be scheduled the day prior to that. Please allow at least an hour. All those who are in the wedding party (bride, groom, best man, matron/maid of honor, bridesmaids, ushers, ring bearer, flower girl, parents of the bride and groom) and any others who will be participants (readers, those presenting the bread and wine, etc.) in the wedding should be present for the rehearsal as well. In this way, the major participants will know where they need to be and what they should be doing so that the wedding will be an occasion of warmth, dignity and blessing.

Flowers

Generally, simplicity is in order when selecting flowers. You should discuss your ideas with the Rector. Two identical arrangements are placed behind the altar. Ordinarily they remain for the following Sunday service. Petals of live flowers or paper are not permitted in the church. Bird seed is permitted outside (and appreciated by our winged friends). Bubbles are permitted.

Photography

Still photography and video taping of weddings must be discussed with the Rector. Flash photography will be allowed during the processions into and out of the church. Available light pictures may be taken from the rear of the church. A video camera can be placed in an inconspicuous place. The clergy will be happy to pose for any pictures following the wedding. Please see that all photographers consult with the Rector about church policy before the service begins.

General Thoughts

Please bring the valid marriage license and all fees to the wedding rehearsal, thus relieving some of the stress of the wedding day. We hope that appointments, rehearsal and the wedding will begin on time. It is customary to have a receiving line at the back of the church following the wedding. Our Undercroft is available to you for a shower, rehearsal dinner or wedding reception.

Thoughts on Music by Our Minister of Music, Ellen Schutt

Concerning music, once you have been in contact with our priest, you should set aside time to meet with Ellen. Here again, music ministers have training and years of experience with weddings. We have specific guidelines as to what music can or cannot be used in the wedding liturgy. As you discuss music with the organist, keep in mind that popular selections which are overtly secular are best suited at the reception, not in a sacred liturgy. And don’t fall into the trap of choosing a piece of music just because “everybody else uses it.” Supposedly “traditional” music is often inappropriate and, given the great wealth of other more beautiful choices, such music is not used here. I will suggest songs, hymns, preludes or processional music from which you may choose which might be less familiar but just as exciting, and will give your wedding a unique and memorable individuality.

 
 
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